Lonely people in the today’s
Certainly, this phenomenon can even please in something: in relations more and more valuable there is a truth. Marriage ceases to be “the form of economic survival” and “mutual exploitation”. But in due course – usually small – the loneliness begins imperceptibly, but inevitably to accrue. Sooner or later, the lonely person starts it to notice. At first with doubt, and then – all the more sharply. With the years the circle of friends and acquaintances often does not increase, the quantity of married friends and married girlfriends at which arise, distinct from interests of bachelors of both sexes, interests grows. And then the person risks to remain surrounded only fellow workers.
On the one hand, it is a lot of possibilities of search of acquaintances: shops, exhibitions, clubs, the Internet, personal announcements, marriage agencies. But the similar prospect often, understandably, inspires the
person not for long. After such attempts of acquaintance often there is a sensation of some ushcherbnosti: to a thicket such variants approach too to people of a certain warehouse. At the majority after a number of unsuccessful attempts the inspiration and desire to search for the love in a similar way disappears. Besides, having come across a few times on “unusual” types, the person can stop the search of love in general. Then on change to hope to find the partner in life the thought about " comes; the fate” or, as now it is fashionable to be expressed “karma”. According to such a person, it needs to accept only the destiny, or to try to “catch” that is possible. After all ” princes and Princesses – all the same not happen.” Certainly, there is also a third variant: It is possible to continue to go to get acquainted – almost as unloved for work. But then arises still bolshee disgust: to itself and to “opposite” to a floor. To life. Therefore long maintain the few.
What to do? It is necessary to create a circle or club – adherents, coinciding people not only on the track, but on values and interests, the people sincerely believing in love and that it can be found even in a prison cell of city jungle. Thus there is a possibility simply with advantage and it is pleasant to spend time, having received from dialogue with adherents and adherents – the present, not diluted pleasure. Even if the person will not get acquainted with someone new, he can well have a rest and at a leisure reconsider the “the concept of love” including the so-called ” sexually attractive prototype. To look back and understand: it/it – already here. Surprisingly, but it is that most/that that were a number and discussed with it problems of modern love. Knowingly, it appears, discussed …
Probability and speed of the decision of a problem of acquaintance to the “half” increases repeatedly, if well knows itself, because then it becomes clear where to search that the” the person approaching in every respect. Certainly, it can be places in which people with similar interests gather, for example, sports, art etc. In them it is possible to make friends, to have a rest and continue to search for the love. But … Certainly, it is possible to descend on shops and to try to kill two hares at once: buying products in bakeries and groceries, simultaneously to try to look after the partner in life. Good luck can smile. But, however, it is improbable: it is better to choose shops on interests. There they those who is probably searched by the person, are often ready to be an pushed with hours (perfect women near a counter with perfumery, books, in shops of stylish clothes, footwear, men – considering autotire covers, carburettors, marks, coins, small fishes, birdies, games consoles to computers, the musical centres.
Before to go to one of such “clubs” it is necessary to solve, what qualities are most of all important in the future spouse. Communication simple: depending on what image looms in the imagination: the intellectual/intellectual, the business-vumen/businessman – it is necessary to choose this or that shop. Thus – than more scarce there will be that the subject, which “simply must” to buy, the it is more difficult to utter its name, the bolshy interest will show to the “buyer” on whom it has placed the “hunting snares”. Perhaps, somebody will even offer the services in a choice and subject acquisition “dreams”.
One of the most general types of shops where there are the most different representatives of a human race, especially at whom that’s OK with intelligence – a bookshop. Here, without philosophising crafty, it is possible to quickly define an occupation silt of a hobby of the new acquaintance/acquaintance. Certainly, before to visit in this or that shop, it is quite good to study the literature on corresponding group of the goods. Otherwise in conversation on “professional” a theme something can escape not too solid …
As club on interests it is possible to consider and some public places. In this connection it is possible to notice that often is better, without wasting time on libraries, to go on an exhibition – become more respectable or even an opening day. Besides a main objective of the visit, the person has an opportunity to raise the cultural level and to take pleasure – at least in something one. In only – has often put it and it is limited: after all come here not in search of the partner in life, and, as a last resort, for acquaintance. Also it is necessary to find out separately still: what intentions of the new acquaintance …
Acquaintances under the announcement – by phone or in the Internet are good that it is not necessary to go anywhere. It is enough to buy near any newspaper publishing personals, for example, “All for you”. But as a rule, if the person – the inveterate homebody and after service at once hurries home, it needs to hope only for its majesty the Case. And, strangely enough, in life there are miracles. Sometimes it is not necessary to leave the apartment at all: “Love and on an oven shall find.” But for process acceleration sometimes it is useful to climb down from this oven, perhaps.
Certainly, it is possible to use the help of friends. There is an opinion what to get acquainted most easier in the company of friends or acquaintances. More correctly, there to get acquainted and it is not necessary, “beginner” acquaint others. But – the beginner it remains not long, and to wait for another – “right” – the beginner it is possible for years. Besides, in the company’s most easier to get acquainted at certain age – is better, the student’s years. Then usually invite to parties where all gathered already have married among themselves. Therefore it is better to descend on presentation.
Actually is better to search its/its there and where where she/it searches for you. The logic of actions here is rather simple: if one of halves “concerned” another searches, it is possible from almost 100 % confidence to tell that too most has made another also. Therefore it need to be found a place, in which probability to meet each other still above. It should be a place where love – it is valid ” corrects the ball.”
And, at last, the person should have a huge belief that it will necessarily find the happiness that will meet the one who will be its true friend and favourite, that that is too searches for it and hopes for a meeting. And the same as it comes there where there is a true love.